Au Pairs: Invaluable parenting assistance for blended families

As a Local Childcare Coordinator (LCC) for Cultural Care Au Pair, I have the opportunity to witness diverse parenting choices and effective uses of au pair hours. I recently came across a unique, though increasingly common, family dynamic that benefits from au pair hours in a significant way: the blended family.

Blended families are tasked with a unique set of challenges that can be greatly eased by the benefits an au pair provides. Blended families, a term that describes families where one or more spouses bring with them children from a previous marriage, must manage complex schedules, including where applicable, different custody scenarios. Blended families are tasked with trying to integrate and coalesce to become a unit, in the midst of schedule madness. Au pairs are uniquely positioned to facilitate both of these problems while providing a stabilizing influence for children in transition. When thinking back to my own family situation…

I married a man with full custody of his 4 children. Oh, how I now wish I had known how accessible the au pair program actually is! It’s a miracle we made it through our first few years of marriage. I discontinued my full time career in non-profit services to help taxi my new children around after school each day. At that time we had four children in three separate schools. Our children were in two different after care programs and involved in activities that required me to shuttle non-stop from 3 pm until 7 pm. My husband and I rarely had date nights and when we did, they were solely for planning activities for the children. We felt like we barely knew each other and could have used the extra help an Au Pair would have provided.

The benefits of au pairs extend beyond mere scheduling conflict resolutions. The au pairs provide additional endorsements of parental directives and help establish new blended family routines. Additionally, by removing chauffer - scheduling stress from the equation, parents can focus more directly on family activities that ease the blended family dynamic without also sacrificing the significant benefits of readily available date-night babysitting.  For more established blended family situations, the au pairs can provide an opportunity for parents to jointly address long-standing areas of conflict, specifically between siblings, without having to divide and conquer, play good cop/ bad cop or any other contrived strategies. For teenage situations, au pairs can provide added eyes and ears as well as a model of independent responsible behavior. Granted, no au pair influence is as valuable as parental influence, but, done right, an au pair can validate and endorse  parental directives.

For more information on hosting an au pair, please call Local Childcare Coordinator Karen Arbour at 203-470-8315; karen.arbour@lcc.culturalcare.com or visit www.culturalcare.com.

About Cultural Care Au Pair
Cultural Care Au Pair is the leading provider of intercultural childcare in the United States. Since 1989, Cultural Care Au Pair has placed more than 85,000 au pairs in welcoming American homes. A U.S. Department of State regulated program, Cultural Care Au Pair is headquartered in Cambridge, MA, with their own extensive network of recruitment, screening and orientation offices worldwide and more than 600 local coordinators across the U.S. For more information about hosting an au pair, visit www.culturalcare.com or call 800-333-6056.